Freaky Good Man

There was an article recently published in the Atlanta Journal & Constitution about Bishop Eddie Long who is the pastor of New Birth Missionary Baptist Church located in one of the suburbs of Atlanta. Some of you may be familiar with Bishop Long. He is on the Christian channel frequently and does quite a bit of touring and preaching around the country. His Church is one of the largest in the State of GA if not the largest. The article was about the money and benefits he received through a non-profit charity organization he set-up.

Now I will state my feelings about Bishop Long up front. I truly enjoy the message that Bishop Long brings. I actually think he does a great job of tying scripture into his sermons. My issue with him has been his attire. His attire you ask? The brother obviously works out. I am not mad at him for that. But, to go around wearing muscle shirts and tight fitting suits all the time is a bit much. He has taken it as far as getting the church’s logo printed on the under armor (fitted athletic shirts) shirts he wears and even has worn them under his suit, with just the fitted shirt under. Now, that’s just me and the clothes he wears is neither here nor there to be honest when it gets down to it. But, those were my only real feelings about him until I read this article. AJC Article Link

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Ladies and Gentleman please forgive me for going on this political rant. But, I hope that you read this and pass it on. I am writing this in hopes to help educate those that may not be completely aware of what is going on and also to help create debate, if I am wrong on my understanding please respond. Always respond with your general thoughts as well.

Almost everyday in America if not on the local news on the national news we hear about the Palestinians and the Israelis fighting. We recently have seen how Jews were removed from their homes in the Gaza strip. I had a discussion with my mother about the situation, and she shared with me that she really didn’t know what that whole mess was all about. In my mind, I feel that a lot of people are like that. I know I never really understood the hoopla myself. Here is my interpretation of what has lead up to where we are, so bare with me, it is very interesting stuff.

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I read an article in the AJC the other day that was written by a gentleman who writes for the Washington Post. He wrote about the lack of black men in the church. Now he didn’t bash black men, he just gave his on personal account of why he hasn’t been to church. He talked about how he was actually a licensed minister and that he use to be very active in his church and even misses certain aspects of it.

The article to me was not a black man’s article. To me it was an article about a disconnect from men in general with church, but since he and I are both black men, I can live with his topic and will try to share my thoughts on the topic as a black man.

I am at a similar point in my life as this writer. However, he is married with two children. I would hope that I wouldn’t let my spouse and kids go to church alone, but if he is at the point that I am, I can somewhat feel his pain.

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I left open for people to ask me anything they wanted. I was asked what was my favorite sexual experience. I thought it was a good question so I decided to write the response as an entry. I am including the link on the blog if I wrote about it for those that haven’t read about that particular experience.

Wow, I don’t have one favorite. I have a few experiences that are at the top of the list for different reasons.

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Early last week I posted an entry that was written by my sub. I decided to write my version of the events so that you can here what happened from my perspective as well.

My sub was due to come over and was late, like she normally is. I actually figured she wasn’t coming, because she has been very nervous about this whole deal to the point she has wanted to back out. I am in my office working and had figured that I would have to get in her ass and cuss her out when I hear from her and the phone rings. It’s her and she is asking about the directions I sent her, saying she is turned around. So I am all fucked up, I had showered and started to prepare for her, but when I didn’t hear from her I just started back to work. So, now I have to make a mad dash to try and get situated for her and she is just up the street.

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A person’s blog I check out from time to time did this on her page and I thought it was a fun idea.

Feel free to ask me anything you like. If you have read some of my entries and wondered something about anything you have read. Feel free to ask anything you like. If you are curious about anything about me as a man feel free to ask. Nothing is off limits. You ask and I will tell.

Now I will be out of town for a couple of days so if I don’t see your question before I leave, I will surely answer on my return.

Ok, the last post I made was written by a female friend. I have to spill the beans a little more. She is also my new sub. I wrote before about the whole Domination and submission thing. After the first experience, that sub wanted something long-term in a regular relationship. That wasn’t going to happen with her. I wasn’t feeling her like that. I had basically said i was cool and i wouldn’t pursue the D/s (Domination and submission) thing anymore because my experience was pretty damn exciting and covered most of the bases that I was looking to check out. It was honestly an exploration thing and not a desire.

Low and behold I get an email to my regular email account saying that I had a message on the site where I met the original sub I wrote about (if you haven’t read that entry you need to, that one is probably the most eye popping lol). I had sent out emails to maybe 3 females from the site and she ended up responding back. As I mentioned before, there were not alot of attractive black females that were subs on the site. We met, hit it off and agreed to just play when we could on the D/s level.

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My weekend fun, I had intended to go to an old school party with a couple of friends. With the thought of maybe checking out a swingers club I had heard was having an event. I was really in the mood to get my dance on and especially listen to some of the music that was going to be played at the party. But, as I was getting ready to turn into the hotel where the party was the two females I was hanging with called me and said they were still eating and would miss getting there while it was free, so of course being black they didn’t want to go. lol I was disappointed because it was packed and people were still coming. It looked like it was going to be a fun party (actually heard that it ended up off the chain).

So I decided to meet them where they were eating to have a couple of drinks. It was my friend Ms T and one of her girlfriends (Ms R) that she had told me about but I hadn’t met. Ms T is a real cool female friend and looks innocent as hell but is a straight up freak. Her friend is an accountant (second accountant in a month hmmm), conservative, but attractive. How conservative? She doesn’t ride dicks on the first sexual encounter. lol She has some real nice breast and I am not even a breast man. Me and Ms T had agreed that the swingers club would be a contingency plan if the old school party wasn’t nice and she wasn’t sure if Ms R would be down anyway. When I get there Ms T says Ms R was cool with us heading to the swinger’s club. I was like did you tell her what the deal was? She said Ms R was cool with it and ready to go.

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I have gotten some interesting responses back from my blog. And I really enjoy it. But over the last week or so, I have had 4 female friends say to me that I am not messing with you. I am scared of you. lol Now a couple of them read my blog, but I am a pretty open person, so I don’t mind sharing my experiences. The responses I have had from my friends made me really wonder if a woman would really not talk to me because of my sexual experiences. I have always been open with a woman about the things I have done. And it has never been an issue.

In my mind, I would think that a woman would want a man that can be open and enjoys pleasing a woman sexually. Should it matter the things that I have experienced sexually? I was single when I did the things, I always used protection and it’s not like I have ever done any bi or dl things (that I could understand if a woman was like hell no). If I don’t ask or push on a woman anything that she isn’t comfortable with, why would my experiences bother you? Is it an intimidation factor? Is it, you think I would expect those things from you?

As I have written before in my blog, I wouldn’t expect the woman I marry to want to do swinging, or 3somes, or Domination and submission. I do want us to be able to explore with ourselves. But, I am having my real freaky experiences now, so that when I do find that wonderful woman to settle down with, I am not sneaking out the back door, or having secret emails with anyone. I think people get themselves in trouble in their relationships because they have not experienced anything and they start getting those urges to experience their unfulfilled fantasies.

So I ask my female readers, would you honestly be intimidated by the things I have experienced sexually if you were considering a long-term relationship? If so, why? And if that’s the case, would you prefer a man that is not open sexually?

This is an interesting entry for me. I have hesitated writing this, because this was an on the edge experience for me. I have over the last 1 or 2 years had thoughts about the whole BDSM lifestyle or D/s Domination and Submission. I had read articles about it, gone to some sites that had stories about people’s experiences and some of it really intrigued me. Now some of it was way out there for me, but to each their own.

I had actually met a female on Black Planet that was into the lifestyle pretty heavily and she was kind enough to let me pick her brain. She was a female Domme and had a stable of servants, which in it self was intriguing. But she encouraged me to check out one of the alternative D/s personals site, so I did and ended up creating a profile. Was pretty disappoint as there were not a lot of sisters. And the ones that were in the lifestyle were Domme (dominant females, Dom = dominant male). And I am very much a Dom male. So I didn’t see much that I liked.

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It’s been a minute since I updated. Things have been going pretty busy lately. More good than bad, so no real complaints. Since I last wrote, I had my 34th birthday on April 27th (Taurus). The birthday week started out rough. I got poked in the eye playing football the Sunday before. Had to wear a freaking patch over my eye for a few days, so I canceled most of my plans for my actual b-day because as my wonderful friends kept telling me I was a pirate and Captain one eye. lol What wonderful friends I have. lmao

I had a follow up appointment the day of my Birthday and my eye had healed enough for me not to wear the eye patch anymore. So I still end up having lunch with a friend. But, the birthday festivities were geared toward the weekend anyway.

I have to mention one day, although I told the person I wouldn’t put details in the blog. I will say that I got a wonderful present on the day after the actual birthday which was a Wednesday. I had my own personal birthday servant that did any and everything I wanted. That was a very fun night. Maybe I will get a chance to share that in the future. But, I am a man of my word. So, just know that it was a fun night.

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You know its funny; I had to check myself the other day. I get asked if I am dating and the next question is always why not. For me my standard answer is that I am caught up with my business. Which is mostly true. But, the other part I have to be honest with myself about is that, at this point in my life, having a new business, my funds are tight. So, subconsciously I don’t even pursue a woman, because I know at this time I can’t provide the things that a woman would want. Even as far as just dating. Hell, I like to go out and enjoy myself with a woman without too much concern about the budget, but now it’s the first thing on my mind. And I am not writing this for any sympathy or saying that women are materialistic. It’s not that at all. Just had to be honest with myself and I decided to write about it.

I have always said that I wanted to be a complete package for the woman in my life and I feel that I am. I just know how it is to be in a relationship when the other person doesn’t have much. I think that’s really the thing. I have always been the provider and not to be able to provide like I would want to is a humbling experience. Some of life lessons can be tough, but as I go through it I already know that things are good. Sometimes you just get to a point where you are ready to fast forward to a better part of life. Feel free to respond, but again this is not a woe is me session or cry for sympathy, just writing.

I have been asked, what I think are a couple of interesting questions by a couple of people who have read most of my entries to the blog. The questions were: do I think I could be in a committed relationship based on the experiences I have had? The other question along the same lines has been, do you think you can find a woman that satisfies you?

One of the reasons I have been asked those questions is mainly because I have experienced swinging and 3 somes. The thing that people need to understand, is that when I am in a serious committed relationship, I have never done any of those things. Both of those situations can cause jealous to creep into your relationship. For that reason, I would not jeopardize my relationship for those experiences. Those experiences do not hold more value to me than a serious relationship or the feelings of the person I am in a serious relationship with.

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It’s been an interesting short ride since I started this blog. I have enjoyed the majority of the responses. Some have been sent direct and some are posted on the blog. Even the ones that don’t quite get it have been interesting. I felt compelled to write a little more about me and the reason for creating the blog.

The whole blog thing was an idea I saw on someone’s personal page and thought that it was a fun idea. It also made me think of all the times my close friends would tell me how much they like hearing about the things that I have experienced. So, I decided to create a blog, to put into words some of my most interesting past experiences as well as share in some of the things that are going on in my current life.

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Keep it real

Now, I usually hate the saying Keep it real. For one, I think its over used and I when I hear people say I am just keeping it real, I wonder how often they keep it real and when they don’t keep it real do they admit that they are faking? lol Just one of my pet peeves. This is a short and sweet story (it was suppose to be when I started out), but the ending makes me want to say to the person, stop the bull shit and keep it real.

Went out to a happy hour with two of my boys. It was my current business partner and one of his co-workers at the time, Big Smooth. Big Smooth is a cool ass cat, and the name Big Smooth fits him to a “T”. This brother has his game down to a science. He knows when to “flash that smile at them”. When to tell a woman a bunch of shit or whatever. This dude is always on the prowl. He probably gets at least 6 or 7 new numbers a week, every week. He is charming, polite and he knows how to make a woman let her guard down. He literally has his game down to a science and most women never see it coming. It’s to the point where this brother actually published a book of his own poetry, for the sole purpose of meeting more women. The crazy thing is he didn’t need to do this little scheme, but he wanted to take his “game” to another level.

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