This is a story that happened close to my b-day back in April, but I never finished it until now. I think she had just a tad of crazy on her.
I met this female at happy hour. Real sexy female that was a nurse and had a cool personality. She is in the process of going through a divorce, she has 3 kids and lives way the fuck in no mans land. Because of the pending divorce, the 3 kids and where she lives, I would not consider her someone I would date long term. Let me clarify. The divorce isn’t a major issue although I would not date someone seriously until they have had time to get over the divorce and the divorce was final. I do know some people have long drawn out divorces, but this didn’t seem to be the case. I don’t have any kids, so a female with 3 kids is too many for me. If a woman has one child, I can get with that. Plus this female said she didn’t want to have any more kids. I still want kids. Anybody that knows Atlanta, knows that people are spread out all over the place. She lives 54 minutes away from me without any traffic.
Anyway, onto the crazy part. We met Thursday night. We hang out for dinner and a movie on Sunday. Everything went well, we laughed a lot and cuddled a little so a good first date. Her kids are with their dad on Monday’s so we decided to have drinks and relax at her house Monday night. All that day on Monday we are texting each other and have some fun exchanges via texts.
I get to her house that night and we have a couple of drinks get to know each other better and relax. The previous night I had put my hand on the back of her neck and she was very tense, so I told her I would give her a massage. That was before we decided to meet the next night, but I came prepared to work on her. She wanted to have her massage in her bedroom. So we get to her bed room and she jumps on the bed and lays on her stomach. I try to work on her back and neck, but she had on a shirt that was getting in the way, not to mention her bra. So, I tell her to take it off and she hesitated, but obliged me. Now she is topless on the bed laying face down and all she has on is these tight ass boy shorts on. She was a little shorty about 5′1″ but had some track like legs that I was loving.
I end up giving her a nice strong massage to the point where she starts nodding bit, which was ok with me. After I work her neck and back real well I started massaging her legs all the way to her toes. I massage the back of her legs and her feet, then I tell her to flip over. She flips over and seemed to not care that she was topless at this point which let me know she was finally really relaxed. We had some nice kisses before we had made it to her bedroom, so before I started massaging her legs again I gave her a nice long kiss. Did I mention she had some sexy lips. After a nice passionate kiss I start massaging her legs again, but this time I start massaging closer to the kitty because she had on these tiny ass boy shorts on. After awhile I just couldn’t take it anymore and I pulled her boy shorts off and also pulled her to the edge of the bed. I started sucking on her toes and eased my way to her pretty pussy.
The kitty had a great taste and I was enjoying it until she came the second time. Then for a reason I do not know, I started feeling guilty and backed off. Obviously at this point we could have easily fucked, but I intentionally didn’t bring any condoms because I didn’t want to get caught up in a situation where it may have felt or seemed like I was doing her in a vulnerable position just coming out of a divorce and we had just met. She asked me why I stopped and she was reluctant initially but she agreed with me that we should stop. Now at that time I was ready to leave, because I am not sure if I am going to stop myself a second time. But, she literally begs me to stay with her the night. I told her that I would stay until 5 Am or so, so I could get the hell from where she was before the Atlanta traffic got ridiculous. As I mentioned it was almost an hour with no traffic, it would have been a minimum of an hour and a half but probably close to two hours if I had waited too long.
Anyway, I sleep lightly for a couple of hours and then get my clothes on while she is still sleep. I wake her up and tell her that I am about to leave and she kisses me bye and tells me to lock the front door, which I do and leave.
That day was a busy day for me so all of the texting that went on the first day didn’t happen on my end. She texted me a couple of times and I responded when I could. Now remind you, I did respond, it just wasn’t a constant back and forth like the previous day. I probably got a chance to send her about 3 texts during the day. Well about 7 that night I get a text from her saying that I was wrong for playing games with her. I am like WTF? So, I ask her to explain what she was talking about. She explains to me that because I did not text her as much as I did the previous day that I was playing around with her feelings.
Now this really pissed your boy off cause she seemed like a cool chic and I was really trying to figure out a way to work her in even though she lived far away and had 3 kids etc etc. Not to mention in my mind I am wondering how in the hell she would have acted if we had actually fucked the night before. I make sure that I clarify with her why she was mad and she repeated that I was playing with her feelings. I make sure that she had received the text messages that I did send to her. She replied that she had received them. Now on top of this in one of my text I tell her that I am a bit busy today and can’t respond until later. So, in no way or fashion did I ignore her.
Our phone conversation starts to go in circles a bit, so I tell her she needs to really understand what she is doing, because I am thinking she is acting irrationally. Now I tried not to say to her she was acting crazy, but she picked up what I was saying so that made the situation worse. To keep it from going completely down the toilet, I tell her that we should just take a day or two and revisit the situation later. We get off the phone with each other and I don’ call her for a full week. When I do call her back, we have some small talk to catch up, then I ask her if she had thought about what had happened. She said she had, but felt that she had the same feelings as before. To top it off she said that she didn’t appreciate that I said that she was acting crazy. I again try to diffuse the situation and say that I didn’t call her crazy I just felt she was being a little irrational. She is like I know what the hell you said and I don’t appreciate it.
At this point this shit is a no win situation, so I tell her it was nice meeting her, but it was no need for us to talk again. Then I said, if we want to say hello and be cordial I am cool with that, but besides that you don’t have to worry about me calling you again. She is like well you don’t have to be cordial to me. I said to her, if that’s the way you want it fine. I don’t think you are a bad person, good luck to you and have a good life. Bye.
Now this woman was a cool chic, but she had been married to this guy for several years and he was really her main guy as an adult. I think they had been married 8 years with 3 kids and she was 29. I truly wish her luck, because with 3 kids it’s going to be tough for her to date seriously. It may not be like that, but I think in general terms it will. She is at a bad disadvantage because of her perception of the dating world. I think her ass is in for a rude awakening.
She not crazy, she is just a little irrational. lmao


I have to disagree with you in part of your story. I don’t think it is exceptionally hard to “date” while having 3 kids. I have 3 kids, recently divorce after being married almost 10yrs. When we first seperated I wasn’t trying to get into anything serious anyways so i was just dating to have fun. That was still my mind set when a guy at the gym stepped to me one night. I told him up front I had 3kids.. there is no shame in my game and I was going thru a divorce. I figured it would just be a few dates or something like that nothing serious like the others. But almost 2 years later we are still together, we have actually moved in together and doing great. He also has two children so neither of us want anymore children. I think it all depends on what that particular man is looking for and what he can handle. You have the preference that she has 0-1 child but other men may not be the same way. Also, would you seriously let children (they grow up and move out usually) ruin your chances with being with the “woman of your dreams” so to say?
Comment by Anonymous — November 3, 2009 @ 2:57 pm