I was on one of my favorite message boards and a guy asked the question: Could you marry a chic that doesn’t swallow?
The responses were pretty varied and some were a bit sad.
75% of the guys said it didn’t matter.
25% said they would end it.
In my mind, I think it’s crazy that something like that would determine if you would marry a person or not. I tell any woman, that if a guy says he doesn’t want to be with you because of something like that, he isn’t the type of guy you need in your life. As most of you know, sex is important to me and I think it is fantastic. The reality is that it takes more than sex to have a great relationship and it surely takes more than one sex act to make sex bad.
This was a comment by a married guy and I think it’s just sad:
doesn’t matter if she swallows or not,,, she won’t be giving you much head after the wedding anyway,,, better enjoy that shit while you are single
Not sure what this guy’s status was but still:
if you find a chic that doesn’t start rationing pussy when you get married and all you are worried about is swallowing you have your priories out of wack
married people are lucky to get head on their birthday
Two things I would like to address. Comments like this is why I never feel rushed to get married. Secondly, comments like this from married men is usually why single men are more reluctant to walk down the aisle. Men hear this type of talk ALL the time. Even guys I know that are happily married never say to me, go out and get married it’s wonderful. The only men that I know that push marriage are men heavily entrenched in the church or men that are older and settled in their lives. Those guys tend to be men who lean on their wives to do all the “womenly chores” around the house that they won’t or can not do for themselves. Now that is not to say that I don’t have any happily married friends.
Women on the other hand give you the marriage is bliss and all is wonderful speech. A lot of guys tell you it’s like a prison sentence. I personally believe that more women are happy in their marriage than men, but there are a lot of women spewing a lot of BS about how happy they are just to save face in front of friends and family. It’s very sad actually and I have experienced conversations with women that are very unhappy in their marriage once you pull the covers away from it and they are honest, but they tend not to want to admit it. Women tend to make the lack of happiness in their marriage as a personal reflection of how successful they are as a person. I think that is very faulty thinking.
I will never forget a female co-worker I had that would always talk about how great everything was with her and her husband (actually they were common in-law married with kids). It was almost like she couldn’t wait to talk about how they were so happy. This same female ended up having a fling with one of my boys. She still maintained the same BS talk in public while she was having the fling. It is amazing some of the BS that goes on in the world.
Now going back to the original topic, is there anything as a woman (or man) that you would have to have sexually that would make you consider not moving forward in a relationship or marriage with a person? If everything was equal, he is a good guy, a good provider, etc., etc. Is there one thing that you have to have sexually or it’s a done deal?
To me it’s not one specific thing that would make me kick a chic to the curb, but if there were a couple of my favorite things that she was not even willing to consider or learn, it would probably be nipped in the bud way before we got to talking about marriage anyway.