Comments on: Why porn is good for your relationship. http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/ Sharing some of my adventures in business, dating, sex and life. Wed, 09 Dec 2009 05:50:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: freakygoodman http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1079 Tue, 14 Apr 2009 23:48:09 +0100 http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1079 You still have to address the porn issue. It is something that is on your mind and it's not going to go anywhere. That is one of those things that can eat way at a relationship. You have to be honest to him about your concern, but you have to walk the fine line of not trying to alienate him about it. Try not to make it strictly about the porn, because that could make him pull away from you and hide it even more. You still have to address the porn issue. It is something that is on your mind and it’s not going to go anywhere. That is one of those things that can eat way at a relationship. You have to be honest to him about your concern, but you have to walk the fine line of not trying to alienate him about it. Try not to make it strictly about the porn, because that could make him pull away from you and hide it even more.

]]> by: Anonymous http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1078 Mon, 13 Apr 2009 14:05:16 +0100 http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1078 Yes there is a little insecurity from a prior relationship unfortunately. You see I was married for 9 yrs prior to this relationship and my husband cheated on me numberous times and basically told me about it. At first when we started dating I was doing very good until a few months ago.. Something just didn't seem right.. I guess you could say women's so called intuition.. and I went through his phone, vm and text, everything was straight. Then recently I added internet service at my house and he brought his computer over.. he would be up in the middle of the damn night on the thing, I wouldn't be nosey just turn over and go back to sleep. So one day when I came home from work I found some pics in a pic program that was with other pics off his camera and I looked up the file that these photos were in and I found all of them.. sooo many.. It doesn't interfere with the way he takes care of his business. I feel like he puts me on a pedestal like his queen.. Thank you so much for the insight I really appreciate it.. I'm gonna steer away from the snooping and try to integrate porn openly into our relationship. Yes there is a little insecurity from a prior relationship unfortunately. You see I was married for 9 yrs prior to this relationship and my husband cheated on me numberous times and basically told me about it. At first when we started dating I was doing very good until a few months ago.. Something just didn’t seem right.. I guess you could say women’s so called intuition.. and I went through his phone, vm and text, everything was straight. Then recently I added internet service at my house and he brought his computer over.. he would be up in the middle of the damn night on the thing, I wouldn’t be nosey just turn over and go back to sleep. So one day when I came home from work I found some pics in a pic program that was with other pics off his camera and I looked up the file that these photos were in and I found all of them.. sooo many.. It doesn’t interfere with the way he takes care of his business. I feel like he puts me on a pedestal like his queen.. Thank you so much for the insight I really appreciate it.. I’m gonna steer away from the snooping and try to integrate porn openly into our relationship.

]]> by: freakygoodman http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1076 Fri, 10 Apr 2009 18:52:16 +0100 http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1076 @anonymous Can porn be addictive? Yes it can. Everything we do in life should be done in moderation. I recall when the internet really got going with porn. At the small company I worked at all the guys would head to the porn sites as soon as the official work day was over. Even the President of the company would check it out. To me whether or not it's an addiction should be determined by whether or not it is affecting the person being able to function as normal. Is it causing problems with the person taking care of their family life? It sounds to me that maybe he has a fetish for big women. There is not anything wrong with that on the surface and there could be a lot of other fetishes he could have that are a lot stranger. DO not assume because he is looking at a certain type of porn that it means that he prefers that over you. It sounds like there is a bit of a trust issue that may be more at the forefront than the porn. If he is with you, you should assume that he is with you because he wants to be with you unless he is giving you a reason to believe that you are not who he wants to be with other than looking at porn? Try watching it with him as I mentioned in the entry. If watching porn is brought into the open and the sneak factor can be removed it could help the situation for both of you. I think you should also take a look at yourself and ask why you feel the need to snoop around. I know a lot of people do it, both men and women. But, why does this insecurity exist in your relationship? @anonymous
Can porn be addictive? Yes it can. Everything we do in life should be done in moderation. I recall when the internet really got going with porn. At the small company I worked at all the guys would head to the porn sites as soon as the official work day was over. Even the President of the company would check it out.

To me whether or not it’s an addiction should be determined by whether or not it is affecting the person being able to function as normal. Is it causing problems with the person taking care of their family life?

It sounds to me that maybe he has a fetish for big women. There is not anything wrong with that on the surface and there could be a lot of other fetishes he could have that are a lot stranger.

DO not assume because he is looking at a certain type of porn that it means that he prefers that over you. It sounds like there is a bit of a trust issue that may be more at the forefront than the porn.

If he is with you, you should assume that he is with you because he wants to be with you unless he is giving you a reason to believe that you are not who he wants to be with other than looking at porn?

Try watching it with him as I mentioned in the entry. If watching porn is brought into the open and the sneak factor can be removed it could help the situation for both of you.

I think you should also take a look at yourself and ask why you feel the need to snoop around. I know a lot of people do it, both men and women. But, why does this insecurity exist in your relationship?

]]> by: Anonymous http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1074 Fri, 10 Apr 2009 09:16:03 +0100 http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1074 Ok.. so you say porn is good for the relationship, I can see your point... What about when porn is an addiction? Let me break it down to you.. I have to admit to being a little snoopy..my bad.. but I have found out that my boyfriend looks at porn damn near everyday on the internet.. be it scenes or pics. At first I was ok with it cause I know men look at porn and even I do on occassion but to look at it everyday seems a little much to me.. Me personally, I am a ride or die chick.. anything he wants he gets other than anal and we both agreed on not liking that avenue.. I am a thick curvy woman and he told me in the beginning that he liked bbw's some of these women weigh at least 300lbs no joke... My question to you is should I be concerned that he looks at it everyday? Should I be concerned that I am really not exactly what he likes in a woman although he is always telling me I have a bad ass body, and that I am beautiful? This topic is right on time for my situation.. Please help!!! Ok.. so you say porn is good for the relationship, I can see your point… What about when porn is an addiction? Let me break it down to you.. I have to admit to being a little snoopy..my bad.. but I have found out that my boyfriend looks at porn damn near everyday on the internet.. be it scenes or pics. At first I was ok with it cause I know men look at porn and even I do on occassion but to look at it everyday seems a little much to me.. Me personally, I am a ride or die chick.. anything he wants he gets other than anal and we both agreed on not liking that avenue.. I am a thick curvy woman and he told me in the beginning that he liked bbw’s some of these women weigh at least 300lbs no joke… My question to you is should I be concerned that he looks at it everyday? Should I be concerned that I am really not exactly what he likes in a woman although he is always telling me I have a bad ass body, and that I am beautiful? This topic is right on time for my situation.. Please help!!!

]]> by: Damiana http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1072 Fri, 10 Apr 2009 05:32:26 +0100 http://freakygoodman.blogsome.com/2009/04/10/why-porn-is-good-for-your-relationship/#comment-1072 Quite interesting... Quite interesting…

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