Will someone please help me understand. I have had a couple of situations where the female I was intimate with was satisfied after having ONE orgasm. I mean just fold up the tent and go home after one damn orgasm. I do not get it and I do not comprehend. The last time it happened the shit really pissed me off.
I had recently met this female and our first intimate encounter was a 3 some with a female friend. The 3 some was pretty cool, but it was more about the ladies. The two of them were really feeling each other so I didn’t get into the mix much, but I did play. The other female I had been with before and while she is probably the most attractive female I have ever been with, I knew she was in the mood for some kitty. The new female was mostly dating women and hadn’t been with a guy in some months. So, again I wasn’t the main course at all, but I was more than happy to be in the mix.
After my friend left, the new female decided to stay and hang out with me. She was a lil slimmie with this nice lil phat ass that was a surprise on her frame, but it was all lovely. We hang at my place and we play a little, but it was more oral and just touching than anything, but it was very sensual. This was on a Friday night, so Saturday and most of Sunday I was trying my best to hook back up with her, but things didn’t work out until late Sunday. Now I was at home and had an early day at work the next day, but about 10:30 PM lil slimmie decides that she is ready for a lil session after we have a nice steamy conversation. Now in my mind, I am like FGM stay your ass home; you know you have to be up early in the morning. But, I had truly been craving a second session, especially since we didn’t get to really do everything the first time.
She even got me extra excited when she texted me right before I left and told me to bring some lube. So, I am like oh shit this is about to go down. I drive about 25 minutes to her crib, but get greeted nicely with her in a robe and nothing under it. The robe wasn’t tied up when she open the door so it was a lovely view. When we get to her bedroom, she already had a porn going and was in the mood. It didn’t take long before I start giving her a back massage that quickly led to me eating her pussy. While I am eating her pussy she is like, don’t make me cum. In my mind I am like shit, you about to cum a few times, cause I am about to break your lil ass off. Now, I did stop eating her long enough to ask her why she didn’t want to cum and she was like I am going to be done.
So you may say, well she gave you fair warning FGM. In my mind, I am thinking she told me to be sure to bring condoms and lube. I am not in the mind frame that this is about to be a one and done. So, I dive back into her pussy and she has a body shaking orgasm a few minutes later. Now she is still laying there kind of rubbing her pussy, so I grab the condoms. And she is like, naw I am done. I am like what do you mean. She is like, shit I am ready to roll over and go to sleep. Now we go back and forth a couple of times and it becomes apparent that she is serious about not doing anything else.
This has taken all of 20 minutes maybe 25. Of course in my mind I am like, I have gotten my ass out of the house driven to your ass and I can’t get my dick wet? I even asked if she would give me some head or something. She was like I am tired. Needless to say I left a very pissed off individual. We had a few choice words via text and I told her how selfish she was.
I had another similar situation where I was invited to a female’s house. It wasn’t late or anything like the previous situation, but basically the same thing happens. I give a little foreplay; sucking on the breast, kissing, eating the kitty, etc. etc. She basically gives me a similar warning, like don’t make me cum. She did end up coming, but we still attempted to have sex. But, I could tell her whole demeanor had changed and she wasn’t into it. I was like what the fuck? We stop, go to another room and watch TV. I start stroking my dick and it is raging hard. I tell her to come ride it and she is like I am ok. I am like; do you see this hard ass dick? lol And I got nothing. I couldn’t believe that shit.
Now these are just two examples with one orgasm, but I have had some similar situations where females were done after maybe two orgasms.
Can someone please explain to me how in the hell are you satisfied as a woman after one nut? Now, let me say. If a female is like, baby break me off with a quickie or something like that, that is a little different. But, when you invite someone over for the specific reason of fucking, how are you done after one?
My other question is what am I suppose to do? Am I supposed to do a “bad job” just to string the shit out until I can get me a nut? Why in the hell am I getting punished because I can make you nut in foreplay?
Last thing I need to ask, on average how many orgasms during a regular session does it take for you to be completely satisfied?
Is one orgasm enough? I am still trying to get my first orgasm through vaginal penetration with a man. I am one of the 53% of women who do not have orgasms. Or should I say I am one of those who do not have them in the ‘normal’ way? I can have one through oral, anal, or with my dildos but not through vaginal penetration. The day I have that one, I will be marrying that guy the next day.
Comment by AtlantaSensualOne — March 1, 2009 @ 10:41 am
@Atlanta Sensual One - you still didn’t answer the question.
As far as receiving and orgasm from penetration, what about if you ride the guy and make sure you grind your pussy against the guy so your clit is getting stimulation during penetration. Also, how are you getting orgasms from your dildos? Isn’t that penetration?
Comment by freakygoodman — March 1, 2009 @ 11:05 am
Well, yes one orgasm would be enough for me. If we are speaking from the other ways I reach my end, I usually do not allow him to bring me to the end until we are wiped out. I have done all of what you ask above but some of us just do not have orgasms through vaginal penetration. I do not use any of my dildos or vibratrs internally. I have vibrating dildos which I use against my clit(oris). The vibrations are what stimulate me in order that I can reach my orgasms.
Comment by AtlantaSensualOne — March 1, 2009 @ 5:05 pm
First of all you already know I am laughing at your ass…lmfao. U drive 25 min and in 25 min u driving back home with dry ass dick…classic. Okay, gain composure, normally one orgasm isn’t enough for me but there has been instances where it has been.I am a pleaser and like to give head so I don’t think I would ever have that senario. I don’t think u should do a bad job but maybe listen when someone tells u not to make them cum. I know its your mission to have a woman cummin’ 30 n 40 times (rolling my eyes) but all of us don’t want that. Also to the young lady that also commented on this blog I am one of those 53percenters as well, but I can squirt from vaginal penetration ( is that TMI) go figure. Still laughing at u FGM
Comment by caligirl — March 3, 2009 @ 8:25 am
LMAOOOOOO! Sorry but that was quite funny. Fundamental difference between men and women - LISTEN! Both warned you and you heard what you wanted to hear and that was the sound of her cumming. I am definitely NOT a one and done kind of woman, however, I can understand it. Both situations are casual, which means it is a selfish situation to begin with. When a woman isn’t feeling you, or isn’t interested in you other than fulfilling a nut, then that’s what can happen. That’s why once that nut was had, they were done with you. Now if you had been with a straight woman (there’s a difference) who was also feeling you, even just a little, then your hardness would not have gone to waste. But I’m sure you know that, any woman who is really feeling you would have never let you walk out the door with a hard dick, cause that is such a waste.
Comment by threedropsofcaramel — March 29, 2009 @ 7:05 pm
To answer your questions… No don’t do a bad job. But remember if she warns you with the don’t make me cum yet, then stop. Switch with her, let her return the favor. Now if she doesn’t want to do that, then the intercourse isn’t going to be better. As a woman, I usually like more than one, however, if I had already gotten started. The first chic sounds like she had since she was already naked with the flik playing when you got there. If I wasn’t feeling someone I could see reacting the same way, although I get pleasure from giving it, so I may have been done after the oral to him. You have to realize that you may have to just get a taste to stimulate but not make her cum. It’s not doing a bad job, just prolonging it. Finally on average, I can cum A LOT! 20+ times or more, but I’m multi-orgasmic, some women aren’t.
Comment by threedropsofcaramel — March 29, 2009 @ 7:12 pm
I am not trying to be insensitive in anyway…just honest. I have never thought of whether other women have one or two orgasams or if one or two would be considered “enough”. I am multi-orgasmic and the times my lover and I have tried to count, we usually loose count somewhere between 12 and 14. By the then we are so punch drunk from exhaustion and over stimulation that we don’t care…we just keep going or take a break and go at it again.
Comment by Sanctified&Sensual — April 10, 2009 @ 1:40 pm