Freaky Good Man

I was checking the notes on my BP page tonight and saw a list that I thought was pretty interesting on someone’s page. Its title is 9 Reasons Why A Man Does Not Call You Back! Since, I have a good female following, I thought I would share this.

When you look at this list, it is pretty straightforward but it hits the nail on the head. I was at a nice house party last night and I could spot out several of these women there.

I am going to add my little two cents after each category.

9 Reasons Why A Man Does NOT Call You BACK!

1. She Lacks Femininity

In our gender war based society, some women have become hard, abrasive and competitive in a manly way. Dealing with these types of females is like talking to or interacting with a man. They lack womanliness and softness, those special qualities attributed to femininity.

Unfortunately, they have become so indoctrinated to be tough like a man; they don’t even realize they have adopted undesirable manly attributes. These types of females are an extreme turn off for any good man.

There’s something attractive and sensual about a true feminine woman. They don’t talk like Lil Kim, dress like Christina Aguilera or act like Britney Spears, but they have a special essence about themselves that says to an honorable man. She must be a special lady? Women without femininity have an uncanny knack for driving away a good man.

FGM: This is so true. Men love the femininity of a woman. Everything that says woman, men love. It does not have to be slutty or over the top. It’s just like when we were playing ball today. On one set of bleachers there were some younger females that had on basically nothing. Short shorts and bikini tops. Now granted they got the looks of the guys out ballin, but it was completely a lust thing. But there was a woman sitting in a sundress under an umbrella and the wind blew from her direction and we could smell her fragrance. It was a soft smell of a woman’s lotion or perfume. Me and one of my teammates were like; yea that’s what I am talking about. She looked sexy and smelled good. She got more props than the half naked women.

2. She Has The, All Men Are Dogs Syndrome.

Since being with her, he has learned about all of the bad things MEN have done to her. Yes, she has had a string of bad relationships. But she altogether rejects the fact that she chose to be with jerks, pimps, thugs, players, abusers, dogs, ballers and shot callers. Since she is now convinced that ALL MEN ARE DOGS, even when a good man crosses her path, she’s going to see, smell and detect a four-legged mutt!

These type of females wouldn’t acknowledge a good man if God personally appeared to them in a vision and said. This is my son in whom I’m well pleased! All good men recognize this sinister spirit and destructive attitude. They run from these females before they are unjustly categorized into their flippant generalizations. No good man wants to be talked to or treated like a dog!

FGM: It’s a damn shame when this happens. The sad part in my eyes is that the woman rarely takes responsibility of her part on allowing some of this stuff to take place.

3. She Is an Angry Bitter Female

This dangerous group of females take the, All men are dogs, mentality to the next level. They seek to get revenge. They have been in risky relationships and miserable marriages and for their heartbreak and trauma, they are viciously bitter against the ENTIRE male gender.

They hold ALL MEN accountable for what some jerk or dishonorable male did to them. They even punish the men who tried to warn them to stay away from: thugs, pimps, players, users, abusers and freaks. No male escapes his vengeful wrath. With these females forgiveness IS NOT an option. Once they meet a man, their sulphuric acid emotions and hostile feelings towards ALL MALES will eventually scald him. No sane good man will call this type of female back.

FGM: My previous comment applies here as well. I met a very sexy woman around New Years. When the conversation was in general format when it was about 4 of us, it was cool. But, once we started having one on one conversation all she did was complain about the ratio of men and life in Atlanta. That ratio of men in Atlanta and other places for that matter is a bit exaggerated. Men start to cringe when they here women use this, because it has been beat to death. Men also know that the majority of the time when they go out, they are not anywhere where the ratio is 10 females to 1 or some other outrageous number. The only regular exception to that rule is church.

4. She Has Children

This may be hard for some single mothers to swallow, but some men simply do not want to raise another man’s child. End of discussion! Whatever their reasons, (i.e., her baby’s mamma drama, misbehaved kids, furor with the baby’s father, etc.) a woman with a child needs to respect their position and leave these men alone!

Don’t date them! Don’t get engaged to them! Don’t try and convince them that they will eventually love your child. And for the love of God, don’t dare marry this type of man. When a man takes issue with raising another man’s child, he is not a suitable mate for any single mom.

I advise women to always be up front and let a man know if she is a single mother. Don’t wait a week or a month. Do it immediately! That way, if he is the type of man who does not want to raise another man’s child, she won’t waste either of their time. Hers, his or the kid’s.

FGM: I have had to deal with this topic. When I was in my early 20’s I wouldn’t seriously date a woman with kids. As I got a little older, I realized it was not a major deal and adjust my thought on the subject a bit. However, I will not seriously date a woman with more than one child. This has nothing to do with that woman’s wonderful children. It has nothing to do with how wonderful she is. However, as a man with no children that is not the relationship I want. It should not be big issue if I choose that. So many women get bent out of shape because of this issue it amazes me. Stop taking it personal ladies; it’s a preference everyone is allowed to have those.

5. She’s Not The One

She’s got it together: education, car, house, looks, church and the whole nine yards. But, she’s not The One for him! She felt something, but he didn’t. Her heart fluttered, but his didn’t. Remember, it takes two to tango. If he doesn’t feel like dancing with you, if he doesn’t sense the chemistry, let him go and move on. Don’t take it personally and don’t try to force it. Know this for a certainty, True Love will find you!

FGM: I have been accused of running from commitment by a woman, because I didn’t decide to date her seriously. The fact is very simple, if I really feel you; I am going to pursue it in whatever way that the relationship goes with no limits.

6. He Perceives She’s Desperate

Some women will do or say anything to snag a man. Once a man asks them out or once they ask a man out, it’s ON! Everything these females do and say from that point on, screams, and entrapment! They will employ their feminine wiles, manipulation, biological clock, guilt and seductive sex traps to snare him.

As cunning as these females are, their desperation comes forth as a simmering stench. Honorable men are weary of these females and run the other way when they meet them. No call back is warranted!

FGM: So many women are guilty of this. I ended a start of a relationship with in a week because the woman came off so desperate. I am flattered that she thought I was the one, but get to know me a little more before you openly say this. Yes, you can know what you want. But, as much as you can know what you want, you do not know I am the one in a week’s time. You may feel it’s going in that direction, but you don’t know. It shows when you are desperate. Think about when a man approaches you and he is just grasping for straws trying to get to know you. The guy that seems hard up, yea, that shit. That’s what happens to women a lot.

7. She Has a Storied Past

We live in a society in which females are tricked, pressured, coaxed and lured into expressing their sexuality. In today’s environment, it is not uncommon for a woman to have had 2, 3, 4 or more sex partners prior to getting married. Contrary to what is publicized by the media, music and Hollywood, most honorable men simply won’t take a chance with a woman who has been with a number of sex partners.

Knowing that their potential wife and mother of their children has had sex with Tom, Skeet, Pimp Daddy and King Kong, weighs heavily on a some men’s conscience. It is common for me to meet married men who are greatly disturbed about the fact that their wife had previous sex partners before they married. Regrettably, they never discussed how her past might affect his conscience prior to getting married. Believe it or not, some men refuse to marry a woman unless she is a virgin.

When they find out about her storied past, a call back IS NOT an option. That does not mean she won’t find True Love, it just means that because of her sexual past, certain men won’t find her to be a suitable mate.

FGM: The whole virgin thing is way over valued. Maybe if a guy is under 25 he thinks about it. But, it was never an issue for me even at that age. Most guys want a woman that is open sexually. The attribute that brings up concern is when the why comes across as loose and a whore. However, you can have had multiple partners and no one perceives you as a whore. If you still command respect and keep your shit in order most men won’t care. When he thinks that you may go sleep with his boy or someone on the street that says a lot about what he thinks of you. What vibe are you giving off? There is always the exception of the jealous man and man that has a lack of self esteem.

8. He Has Not Mobilized Himself For Matrimony

There will be times when you meet what seems to be the perfect man. The chemistry is there. You’re both attracted to each other. You’re like two peas in a pod, but he has not mobilized himself for matrimony.

Understand this; men and women view marriage differently. When women see marriage, usually the first thing they see is the ring, gown, bride’s maids and that breathtaking glide down the aisle. When men see marriage, the first thing they see is the financial responsibility, the ability or inability to take care of their wife and children.

If an honorable man does not believe he has mobilized his career and finances to handle this responsibility, he usually won’t call back. No matter how fine, beautiful or smart she is. Contrary to popular belief, it has nothing to do with a fear of commitment or getting cold feet.

The question on a man’s mind is how am I going to take care of her if we get married? If he doesn’t have the answer to that question right then and there, although she may not understand it, he clearly understands that he has not mobilized himself for matrimony.

FGM: Now this one fits me to a “T”. I will date and I am open to getting serious if it happens. However, I haven’t truly gone out there trying to find the wifey. The reason why is exactly what was stated above. I want to be able to provide in every way if I am going to wed a woman. Now, that does not mean that all the i’s have to be dotted and t’s crossed before I would seriously entertain marriage. But, I need to at least be well on my way at establishing what I am trying to establish from a business prospective. Now my business partner was just the opposite. He married his high school sweet heart and they have gone through all the lean times together. I think that is special and if I had high school sweet heart that I stayed with the whole time during earlier years it may have been different for me.

9. She’s Easy As Sunday Morning

Some females have no morals, values or self-respect. They have no qualms about having sex outside of marriage. Including but not limited to: one-night stands, multiple sex partners and cohabiting. These easily swayed females will do and try anything: lesbianism, dancing at strip clubs, orgies, abortions, pornography and drugs. They have no shame.

Once they meet a man, it doesn’t take much for them to agree to have sex or let him know; I want to sex you up! Although these females are magnets for dishonorable males, pimps and players, they still seek out good men.

FGM: Most guys are not going to deal with trash. However, if you are a party girl yet you keeping your shit on the right track while you are doing it. A guy will overlook a lot.