Freaky Good Man

This was some wild shit that happen to me back in January. I was actually in Vegas for business. The event had ended the day before and I stayed an extra day to kick it. I was getting ready to head to the strip and when I see a female that I had met during the summer pop up on IM. Me and this female had initially met on the site AFF (Adult Friend Finder). AFF is basically a hook up site. You don’t go on there looking for long-term, although I have met a couple of very cool true friends there. We talked on the phone and hit it off. She told me she was looking for someone that she could experiment with. She ended up meeting me at my cousin’s b-day party back in August. We were feeling each other a lot and basically both of us hooked each other up on my cousins pool table, but we didn’t fuck. A couple of days later, we hooked up one night and had a all night fuck session. We fucked for about 4 hours. It was crazy. After that night we talked a few times and she told me she was about to move. But, she basically disappeared on me. Anytime I caught her on IM it was real brief and I couldn’t reach her on the phone. So I stopped calling and moved on, but I thought it was strange how it all went down, because I felt we really had hit it off.

So as I mentioned, she popped up on IM and I started to chat with her, well just let the IM speak for it’s self. This is a little long, but trust me it’s worth the read cause this is some wild shit.

FGM (1/22/2007 3:44:25 PM): hello stranger
FGM (1/22/2007 3:45:05 PM): wow? its like that?
Her (1/22/2007 5:27:53 PM): it’s like what?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:29:44 PM): i sent you a message saying hello. and u logged off without saying anything
Her (1/22/2007 5:29:56 PM): Oh
Her (1/22/2007 5:30:00 PM): what would you like to talk about?
Her (1/22/2007 5:30:03 PM):
FGM (1/22/2007 5:30:15 PM): i was just saying hello. i hadnt seen u online in awhile
Her (1/22/2007 5:30:23 PM): i have a man now
Her (1/22/2007 5:30:30 PM): did i tell you that before?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:30:46 PM): u have a man now? no u didnt tell me that
Her (1/22/2007 5:30:49 PM): when’s the last time we talked
FGM (1/22/2007 5:31:19 PM): i was under the impression when we met u were not looking for serious
Her (1/22/2007 5:32:19 PM): Well, things change
Her (1/22/2007 5:32:28 PM): you understand I’m sure
FGM (1/22/2007 5:32:53 PM): of course things change. i have no problem with that at all. and no one is in explore mode forever
Her (1/22/2007 5:33:02 PM): true enough
FGM (1/22/2007 5:33:14 PM): i thought we hit it off. and next thing i know nothing
FGM (1/22/2007 5:33:25 PM): it would have been cool to know u had changed gears
Her (1/22/2007 5:34:03 PM): were you that serious about me?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:34:54 PM): that serious? i dont think its an issue of serious. i liked you. you seem to have enjoyed the couple of times we had hanging out
FGM (1/22/2007 5:35:18 PM): you specifically said u wanted to explore more with me. all i can do is go by what u tell me
Her (1/22/2007 5:35:28 PM): Ok, that’s fair
FGM (1/22/2007 5:35:33 PM): apparently i missed something
FGM (1/22/2007 5:36:14 PM): but for the record, yes i could have seen myself dating you long term even thought thats not where we were. i was always open to that with the right situation
Her (1/22/2007 5:37:02 PM): i started opening myself up for a relationship during the last year
FGM (1/22/2007 5:37:41 PM): thats great and again nothing wrong with that. even if u were not open to that with me. i got the impression that u still wanted to enjoy hanging out with each other
FGM (1/22/2007 5:37:56 PM): all i got was positive signs from you and then u just stopped communicating with me
Her (1/22/2007 5:38:36 PM): again, when was the last time we talked —
Her (1/22/2007 5:38:50 PM): I’m trying to make a point here
FGM (1/22/2007 5:38:53 PM): i dont remember when
FGM (1/22/2007 5:39:01 PM): not like i didnt try to keep in contact with u
Her (1/22/2007 5:39:06 PM): what month was it?
Her (1/22/2007 5:39:22 PM): i’ll tell you about the other people i was seeing / etc.
Her (1/22/2007 5:39:26 PM): so you can understand
FGM (1/22/2007 5:39:34 PM): u never told me anything about seeing anyone
FGM(1/22/2007 5:39:55 PM): which to me wouldnt have been an issue. the last we talked was about having a fun friendship
FGM(1/22/2007 5:40:03 PM): so u dating would not have been a concern of mine
isiss_00 (1/22/2007 5:40:44 PM): i met a guy in january
FGM (1/22/2007 5:40:59 PM): in Jan 06′ or 07?
Her (1/22/2007 5:41:01 PM): 06
FGM (1/22/2007 5:41:10 PM): ok but we met this summer
Her (1/22/2007 5:41:13 PM): true
FGM (1/22/2007 5:41:24 PM): so that tells me what?
Her (1/22/2007 5:41:52 PM): he was getting most of my attention
Her (1/22/2007 5:42:15 PM): and I was trying to sleep with everybody
Her (1/22/2007 5:42:18 PM): wasn’t
FGM (1/22/2007 5:42:19 PM): lol a guy u met in Jan yet u get on AFF talking about wanting to explore 6 months later
FGM (1/22/2007 5:42:52 PM): how do u explain that. seems like two different scenarios
Her (1/22/2007 5:42:59 PM): how do explain what?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:43:00 PM): u meet a guy for most of your attention
FGM (1/22/2007 5:43:10 PM): then u get on AFF to find someone to explore with thats not him
Her (1/22/2007 5:43:17 PM): yeah,
Her (1/22/2007 5:43:27 PM): but why do you think I wasn’t fucking you
FGM (1/22/2007 5:43:41 PM): i had no idea, you didnt communicate with me
FGM(1/22/2007 5:43:55 PM): had i even had an idea there was someone serious it still would have been cool
FGM (1/22/2007 5:43:58 PM): but u never said anything
FGM(1/22/2007 5:44:07 PM): u kept telling me how tired of the guys u were
Her (1/22/2007 5:44:34 PM): cause it seemed they all came at me about sex
Her (1/22/2007 5:44:42 PM): (I guess i should expect that from AFF)
FGM (1/22/2007 5:44:44 PM): lol so u get on a sex site
FGM (1/22/2007 5:44:46 PM): lol
Her (1/22/2007 5:44:53 PM): i’m not blaming anyone
FGM (1/22/2007 5:44:54 PM): ok, but i didnt come at u just about sex
Her (1/22/2007 5:44:59 PM): true
Her (1/22/2007 5:45:17 PM): but how many times did we go out?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:45:26 PM): what does that mean?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:45:39 PM): are u saying i am suppose to read signs instead of u just telling me what’s up?
Her (1/22/2007 5:45:45 PM): No.
FGM (1/22/2007 5:46:02 PM): we went out once when u came to the house party and then we had sex once
Her (1/22/2007 5:46:14 PM): and when was that?
FGM(1/22/2007 5:46:21 PM): at no point after either did u say u didnt want to continue to hang out
FGM (1/22/2007 5:46:30 PM): that was in late August or september
Her (1/22/2007 5:46:44 PM): that doesn’t seem like the right month to me
FGM(1/22/2007 5:47:15 PM): wait mid august
FGM (1/22/2007 5:47:21 PM): it was my Cousins b-day
FGM (1/22/2007 5:47:26 PM): thats August 13
Her (1/22/2007 5:47:29 PM): K
FGM (1/22/2007 5:47:43 PM): so within a few days of that
Her (1/22/2007 5:48:03 PM): maybe like the 18th weekend?
FGM(1/22/2007 5:48:08 PM): could have been
FGM (1/22/2007 5:48:19 PM): a week or so before u moved
Her (1/22/2007 5:48:31 PM): i moved in with my man
FGM (1/22/2007 5:48:39 PM): that was a week after we fucked
FGM (1/22/2007 5:48:46 PM): lol
Her (1/22/2007 5:48:51 PM): i dont remember fucking you
FGM (1/22/2007 5:48:54 PM): now thats funny
FGM (1/22/2007 5:49:03 PM): u dont remember
FGM (1/22/2007 5:49:08 PM): we fucked all night
Her (1/22/2007 5:49:13 PM): where?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:49:16 PM): at your place
FGM (1/22/2007 5:49:25 PM): remember your daughter said u smelled funny
FGM (1/22/2007 5:49:29 PM): that morning
Her (1/22/2007 5:49:33 PM): my apartment?
Her (1/22/2007 5:49:39 PM): was I high?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:49:46 PM): High? what?
Her (1/22/2007 5:49:57 PM): do you even remember my daughters name?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:50:10 PM): no i dont. why would i. i was never introduced to her
FGM (1/22/2007 5:50:37 PM): she got up that morning when we were just finishing up. so u went into her room while i went out of the door
FGM(1/22/2007 5:50:51 PM): u called me later and told me she said u smelled funny and we both laughed
Her (1/22/2007 5:52:28 PM): alright, how bout this… do you still have my phone number?
FGM(1/22/2007 5:53:09 PM): i had your cell and house number
FGM (1/22/2007 5:53:14 PM): apartment number
Her (1/22/2007 5:53:36 PM): which cell number do you have?
FGM (1/22/2007 5:54:09 PM): Phoebe what is it u are trying to prove exactly? maybe i can help u cut to the chase
Her (1/22/2007 5:54:30 PM): i had someones girlfriend IMing me
Her (1/22/2007 5:54:41 PM): i want to make sure you are you and not a girlfriend fishing for info;
Her (1/22/2007 5:54:46 PM): tell me what my apartment looked like
FGM(1/22/2007 5:54:51 PM): i dont have a girl friend
FGM (1/22/2007 5:54:58 PM): didnt have one then
Her (1/22/2007 5:55:16 PM): i didn’t have an apartment
FGM (1/22/2007 5:55:22 PM): u had a two bedroom apartment
FGM(1/22/2007 5:55:31 PM): when u walk in the door your TV was to the right
FGM(1/22/2007 5:55:39 PM): your bed room was down the hall straight ahead
FGM (1/22/2007 5:55:56 PM): your daughters bedroom was on the right side of the hall
FGM (1/22/2007 5:56:13 PM): you had a bathroom in your bedroom
FGM(1/22/2007 5:56:35 PM): the vanity was out side of the bathroom.
Her (1/22/2007 5:56:53 PM): and you fucked me. at my house. august 18th
FGM(1/22/2007 5:57:05 PM): i didnt say that i dont remember the exact date
FGM (1/22/2007 5:57:31 PM): it was a week or maybe two after u came to my cousins house for the cook out
FGM(1/22/2007 5:57:49 PM): u gave me head at his house and i ate your pussy. u wanted to fuck that night but we didnt
FGM(1/22/2007 5:57:57 PM): i ate you on his pool table
Her (1/22/2007 5:58:53 PM): alright
FGM(1/22/2007 5:59:13 PM): alright what?
Her (1/22/2007 5:59:41 PM): you’ve got me convinced
FGM(1/22/2007 6:00:11 PM): convinced? what are u talking about. are u saying u dont remember me or when we met
Her (1/22/2007 6:00:29 PM): nope.
FGM (1/22/2007 6:01:15 PM): now thats funny
Her (1/22/2007 6:01:25 PM): hold on for one second
FGM (1/22/2007 6:01:28 PM): maybe u blocked it out because u fucked and moved in with your man the nextg week
Her (1/22/2007 6:01:53 PM): can i make it up to you?
FGM(1/22/2007 6:02:08 PM): make it up to me? how are u going to do that
Her (1/22/2007 6:02:18 PM): i could use some good dick
FGM (1/22/2007 6:02:54 PM): apparently it wasnt good if u dont remember it
Her (1/22/2007 6:03:08 PM): i remember… i just wanted you to describe it
Her (1/22/2007 6:03:15 PM): i was sort of tryign to role play
Her (1/22/2007 6:03:19 PM): get you to talk nasty
FGM(1/22/2007 6:03:46 PM): how are u going to get me to talk nasty telling me u dont remember fucking
FGM(1/22/2007 6:04:16 PM): so u tell me. what was it that night we fucked that u wanted me to show u how to do. that made u cum so hard
Her (1/22/2007 6:04:38 PM): I have no idea
Her (1/22/2007 6:04:41 PM): this is her boyfriend
Her (1/22/2007 6:04:43 PM): not phoebe
Her (1/22/2007 6:04:54 PM): and i am really ttrying to understnad what the fuck is goign on
FGM (1/22/2007 6:04:55 PM): yea i figured that thats why i asked
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:13 PM): so did you fuck
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:15 PM): man to man
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:17 PM): help me out here
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:21 PM): shold i run for the hills
FGM(1/22/2007 6:05:26 PM): everything i just told u was true
FGM(1/22/2007 6:05:34 PM): i didnt realize u were not here to just at the end
FGM(1/22/2007 6:05:37 PM): it wasnt adding up
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:46 PM): i have no anger
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:48 PM): toward you
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:52 PM): i found her aff account
Her (1/22/2007 6:05:56 PM): and she said she didnt do anything
Her (1/22/2007 6:06:02 PM): i’m trying to convince myself she didnt
FGM (1/22/2007 6:06:04 PM): no trying to be funny but you shouldnt. she never told me anything about u
FGM(1/22/2007 6:06:08 PM): not
FGM(1/22/2007 6:06:31 PM): she told me she didnt meet anyone on AFF until she met me
Her (1/22/2007 6:06:36 PM): I might belive that
FGM(1/22/2007 6:06:37 PM): now i have no idea if that is true or not
Her (1/22/2007 6:06:48 PM): though I saw a post where she said she had a threesome
FGM (1/22/2007 6:07:10 PM): if she did it wasnt with me. she told me she was ready to have one and told me to try to set it up
FGM(1/22/2007 6:07:22 PM): thats when she disappeared right after we hooked
FGM (1/22/2007 6:07:23 PM): up
Her (1/22/2007 6:07:36 PM): i know this may take some trust on your part…
Her (1/22/2007 6:07:47 PM): can you tell me your aff screenname so i can confront her with it.
Her (1/22/2007 6:08:09 PM): she deleted her account
Her (1/22/2007 6:08:15 PM): so i can’t get the email from her
Her (1/22/2007 6:08:20 PM): i would like some proof to confront her with
FGM(1/22/2007 6:08:40 PM): my man if what i just told u isnt proof enough i dont know what to tell u
Her(1/22/2007 6:08:49 PM): i hear you
FGM (1/22/2007 6:09:01 PM): keep in mind i thought u were here until the very end
Her (1/22/2007 6:09:09 PM): no doubt
Her (1/22/2007 6:09:17 PM): again, i respect you for continuing to talk
FGM (1/22/2007 6:09:27 PM): i dont have any ill will towards her or u.
Her (1/22/2007 6:09:36 PM): I’ve been the other dude in a situation like this
Her (1/22/2007 6:09:42 PM): I have no beef with you at all
FGM (1/22/2007 6:09:54 PM): but this explains why she disappeared
Her (1/22/2007 6:09:58 PM): yeah, it would
FGM (1/22/2007 6:10:05 PM): we would chat every blue moon after she moved
FGM (1/22/2007 6:10:23 PM): but i couldnt get her to say what the deal was
FGM(1/22/2007 6:10:39 PM): just like was trying to find out when we started chatting this time
Her (1/22/2007 6:10:44 PM): yeah
Her(1/22/2007 6:10:46 PM): i feel you
FGM(1/22/2007 6:11:17 PM): the little i know of her she seemed like a good woman, but i knew very little on the grand scheme of things
Her (1/22/2007 6:11:29 PM): for 50 weeks i thought she was the best ever
Her (1/22/2007 6:11:34 PM): then things blew up
Her (1/22/2007 6:11:50 PM): i have been in “get facts / proof” mode for about 2 weeks
Her (1/22/2007 6:12:01 PM): and looking for answers about aff for the last 4 or so
Her (1/22/2007 6:12:06 PM): didn’t take long i guess
FGM (1/22/2007 6:12:26 PM): how did u find out about AFF
Her (1/22/2007 6:12:36 PM): i did a search on her myspace account name
FGM (1/22/2007 6:12:38 PM): and why in the hell would she keep the account up all that time
Her (1/22/2007 6:12:45 PM): myspace came up first
Her (1/22/2007 6:12:48 PM): aff came up second
Her (1/22/2007 6:12:56 PM): and i saw pictures she took in my bed
Her (1/22/2007 6:12:59 PM): in my apartment
Her (1/22/2007 6:13:01 PM): on aff
FGM (1/22/2007 6:13:03 PM): wow
FGM (1/22/2007 6:13:21 PM): yea those pics got her a lot of attention. she had a lot of friends on her AFF profile
Her (1/22/2007 6:13:26 PM): 341
FGM (1/22/2007 6:13:28 PM): lol
FGM (1/22/2007 6:13:31 PM): yea something like that
FGM (1/22/2007 6:13:37 PM): i never added a comment
FGM (1/22/2007 6:13:51 PM): however i noticed no one on the comments said anything about actually meeting her
Her(1/22/2007 6:13:59 PM): yep
Her (1/22/2007 6:14:04 PM): you’re the first i found that met her
FGM (1/22/2007 6:14:34 PM): u know what they say about looking. if u look hard enough u will find something
FGM (1/22/2007 6:14:42 PM): i feel for u
Her (1/22/2007 6:14:43 PM): yep
Her (1/22/2007 6:14:46 PM): thanks
FGM (1/22/2007 6:14:51 PM): especially with her being in the house with u
Her (1/22/2007 6:15:06 PM): well, i threw her out.
Her (1/22/2007 6:15:15 PM): but have let her stay here the last few days because of her daughter
Her (1/22/2007 6:15:22 PM): and my strong desire to belive in her
Her (1/22/2007 6:15:33 PM): we even went to counselling today
FGM (1/22/2007 6:15:49 PM): counseling? are u guys engaged?
Her (1/22/2007 6:16:35 PM): i had a ring picked out
Her (1/22/2007 6:16:42 PM): and a trip to jamaica booked
Her (1/22/2007 6:16:46 PM): for her birthday
Her (1/22/2007 6:16:57 PM): that would have been engagement day
FGM (1/22/2007 6:17:18 PM): wow. i dont know what to tell u.
Her (1/22/2007 6:17:34 PM): you have any email from her somewhere?
Her (1/22/2007 6:17:46 PM): that i can confront her with
Her (1/22/2007 6:17:50 PM): i need her to confess
FGM (1/22/2007 6:17:55 PM): dont think so, we just IMed and called on the phone
FGM (1/22/2007 6:18:07 PM): what will happen if she confesses
Her (1/22/2007 6:18:14 PM): i will be able to let go
FGM(1/22/2007 6:18:18 PM): check her IM message archives
Her (1/22/2007 6:18:23 PM): i have
Her (1/22/2007 6:18:30 PM): she deleted most of them
Her (1/22/2007 6:18:50 PM): i got hip to her yahoo account way to late in the game
FGM (1/22/2007 6:18:53 PM): oh ok. well they tend to come back for some reason. i have deleted mine before and they pop back for some reason
Her (1/22/2007 6:19:29 PM): i didn’t want to break her daughters heart
Her (1/22/2007 6:19:35 PM): without having proof
FGM (1/22/2007 6:20:11 PM): I have no reason to lie to you. i had written her off, but i just was curious to what happened to her
FGM (1/22/2007 6:20:30 PM): so when i say her screen name on i sent a message
FGM (1/22/2007 6:20:32 PM): saw
FGM (1/22/2007 6:21:29 PM): good luck to you. you have any other questions before i dip. I am actually in Vegas and this is my last night here. going to hit the strip
Her (1/22/2007 6:24:58 PM): sorry, disconnected
FGM (1/22/2007 6:25:18 PM): ok not sure if u got this last message
FGM(1/22/2007 6:25:24 PM): good luck to you. you have any other questions before i dip. I am actually in Vegas and this is my last night here. going to hit the strip
Her (1/22/2007 6:25:30 PM): k
Her (1/22/2007 6:25:46 PM): Will you give me your aff name so i can print it and give it to her?
FGM (1/22/2007 6:26:23 PM): how will that help?
Her (1/22/2007 6:26:33 PM): so i can print the profile and confront her with it
Her (1/22/2007 6:26:42 PM): she doesn’t tell the truth about anything until confronted
Her (1/22/2007 6:26:54 PM): my full name is ______ _______
FGM (1/22/2007 6:26:58 PM): i just feel like i am dropping dime on her
Her (1/22/2007 6:27:10 PM): you already did…
FGM (1/22/2007 6:27:11 PM): and dont want to feel caught in the middle. already spilled all the beans
Her (1/22/2007 6:27:12 PM): with this im
Her (1/22/2007 6:27:17 PM): i feel you
FGM (1/22/2007 6:27:39 PM): i think u can print the IM out and have all u need
Her (1/22/2007 6:27:53 PM): true
Her (1/22/2007 6:27:58 PM): have a great time in vegas
FGM (1/22/2007 6:27:59 PM): i gave u specific details
FGM (1/22/2007 6:28:06 PM): something no one could make up
Her (1/22/2007 6:28:18 PM): do you know about her tattoo?
Her (1/22/2007 6:28:29 PM): okay, i’m just completely curious
Her (1/22/2007 6:28:36 PM): what did you do to make her come so hard?
FGM (1/22/2007 6:28:43 PM): dont know anything about a tat
FGM (1/22/2007 6:28:55 PM): when she was naked the lights were out
FGM (1/22/2007 6:29:30 PM): there is fingering move where if u finger a woman with your palm facing up and kind of curl your fingers you hit her G-spot
Her (1/22/2007 6:29:42 PM): yeah, she likes that
Her (1/22/2007 6:29:49 PM): she squirts when you do that
FGM (1/22/2007 6:30:07 PM): she tried to get me to show her how i did it so she could masturbate that way
Her (1/22/2007 6:30:12 PM): lol
Her (1/22/2007 6:30:15 PM): she knows how now
FGM(1/22/2007 6:30:19 PM): lol
FGM (1/22/2007 6:30:29 PM): good luck whatever way u decide to do. take care
Her (1/22/2007 6:30:34 PM): have fun on the strip man
Her (1/22/2007 6:30:39 PM): be cool
FGM (1/22/2007 6:30:42 PM): u to

As a summary, yes that was the females fiancee / boyfriend. One of my female friends said I was slipping by not picking up that it wasn’t her. In hindsight, I agree I should have picked up on it quicker. It just really threw me off, because I felt she could have easily said she was seeing someone on the front end or they were having problems. To me once she moved in with him, she could have just told me she was moving in with him and that would have been that. Damn you don’t have to lie to kick it Craigalina. lol

I have not talked with him or her since then. I feel bad for this guy. It’s worse that he knows she is cheating, but he just wants a smoking gun to really be able to truly believe it. You could tell how hurt he was and that was tough.