Just over a year ago, I wrote an entry titled Is it intimidation? . In that entry I talked about some of the responses I get from women after they have read my blog. A good percentage of the people that read my blog always enjoy my adventures as a good read. Alot want to actually experience some of the things I have written about. There is also large number of the ladies that said that if they were reading the blog looking at me as someone to date they would be intimidated by the experiences. The underlying theme they had was wondering if they could live up to my expectations of a sexual partner. Which I find to be very interesting. I don’t have these broad expectations for a woman I have sex with. If a woman is open to try some things I am cool. I can bring the rest to the table. Have to make it do what it do. 
That was only about 4 or 5 months ago. The FGM blog has been in full effect for about 18 months now. I have experienced and posted more adventures and thoughts since then as well as met few new people along the way.
In answering the question Is it Intimidation, I think it would depend on the woman obviously, but as I think about regular dating, unfortunately I would be very nervous sharing my blog with a woman. If I were to meet a woman at church and tell her, about the blog she would throw holy water on me and start speaking in tongues. The average woman that I would meet at the mall would read the blog and be like, you lead a very interesting life, but that’s a bit much for me.
I can see it clear as day. This blog would run away most women. As I am sitting here, I am thinking of some of my ex-girlfriends and trying to picture how they would respond if they had read this as we started to date. I don’t think any of them would have been able to handle my past experiences. And when I say handle, I don’t mean them having to act out on the things I have done, but I mean handle as in being able to say that’s cool baby I look forward to us making our on adventures.
Obviously with me feeling this way I have a problem. What happens when I meet someone I really like and want to develop something long term? I would feel bad if I didn’t share this blog with them. It’s one thing not to share certain things from your pass until you get to know a person. But, with all the effort I have put into this, to not be able to share it with someone I care about would be very disappointing. I would want to share because it’s part of who I am, but I honestly would be afraid that I would run someone off that I really liked.
I know I should just go with the thought that if she can’t handle it, it wasn’t meant to be. For some reason it just seems more complex than that.
Well first let me say I am a dude and yes I read your blogs. One of my girls put me onto them. I think they are tight as hell and give you your props for them. How many dudes can say they have done the things you have? Not to mention they remind me of the articles that you find in Playboy. Yes I did read the articles, don’t get me wrong I did my time with the pictures but I actually got into the articles too. After all your brain is your largest sexual organ so you have to put that bad boy to work also. You should check into submitting some writing for publishing. It is as good as anything that I read if not better. It is also coming from a black male perspective which I like being that I am a black male too. Why should we only have to read about what white males do or are interested in?
As far as your blogs and the future it has always been my experience that females always want to know but they don’t want to REALLY know if you know what I mean. I don’t think that many females think about the “practice”, so to speak, it takes to be good in the bedroom. It is all about experiences and getting some practice in. Granted if you not laying it down right she is going to talk about you like you not worth the time of day. I don’t think that women ever think about men that are “too good” in bed and what that actually means. I agree that you should share your blog with that future Mrs. FGM. It just may be wise to remove a few of the entries. Are you going to know about all of her previous experiences? Probably not. So why should she know the full extent of your former life before her? After all you were putting in that work and practice for the momment that you met her anyway? Right? It is all for the greater benefit of her sexual enjoyment Right? Feel free to use that line when you meet her. LOL
Well that’s my take on it all. Keep up the great writing and good luck with resolving this issue.
Comment by Chaz — June 17, 2006 @ 11:42 pm
Well Chaz, I must say that it’s refreshing to hear from a guy. Especially one that isn’t hating. I love to hear from my sisters, but it is good to have brethren to break bread with.
I am seriously thinking of publishing and have started to do some research. My schedule stays pretty busy, but I have started formatting a plan.
I may have to still that comment you made about everything is building up for the betterment of my future wife. That is hilarious.
Thanks for checking me out and I look forward to seeing more comments from you.
Comment by freakygoodman — June 19, 2006 @ 6:53 pm
If you become close to a woman that after reading your blog has no hang ups….. run. If after reading your blog she runs, that’s probably good for both of you. If she reads your blog and is a bit uncomfortable but for the most part is okay or willing to get over her hang ups that’s probably one worth having.
As a woman, I have to agree with Chaz. I don’t think women think about the “practice” that is required for a good performace. When one of my girls finds a man that can put it down and they want to jump into something serious I tell them to beware and to really be clear about what he wants and is capable of giving. Personally, right now I wouldn’t trust an extraordinarily skilled man with my heart (but I’d enjoy the hell out of him). I guess that’s my own little issue to overcome.
Comment by e — June 20, 2006 @ 8:57 pm
I didn’t read all the comments, but baby if you can’t find woman that can deal w/ your past and enjoy the practice you have put in then you don’t need her. You need to find someone freakier than a 4 dollar bill. Oh wait, that’s me. LOLOL
Comment by lilsexyme2000 — June 21, 2006 @ 7:25 pm
Go with what works…period. Lead with your heart and not your dick when it comes to having a SERIOUS relationship. Find a mutual respect, honesty, and trust for one another and the rest will fall into place. Who said love was easy?
Comment by msshaundra — July 7, 2006 @ 7:34 pm