Freaky Good Man

Everybody should love themselves as much as they can. But some of us get out of hand. Sometimes you just have to say no. I am guilty myself of too much self-love. Some of you may be asking what are you talking about FGM. I am talking about too much masturbation. lol No, this isn’t a deep entry about loving thyself, however, I do think loving thyself is very very important.

On to the real topic. Men and women both are guilty of too much masturbation. Now, it’s not everybody or the majority of people. There are some out there that can’t bring themselves to enjoy themselves with themselves. Which I have always found confusing. There are some of us out there that get into spurts where you are so horny you just can’t stop touching yourself. I know some won’t admit it, but I know you are out there damn it.

There is still a taboo that hangs over masturbation for a lot of people. Masturbation is a wonderful experience and I think it helps a person understand their body better. I think it even helps you to be able to share with your partner what things you enjoy. Not too mention one of the most sexiest things (in my opinion) to see is a woman masturbating.

Masturbation has kept me out of a lot of drama in my life. Instead of doing like a lot of my male peers who make that late night booty call all the time, I will just “hook” myself up and keep on going. The wonderful thing about it, it can last as long as you like or be over and done with as quick as you like. You don’t have to do any cuddling or talking afterwards either. lol

The problem comes in, when we do too much self-love. When I am eating a woman I can tell if she masturbates a lot. How? When a person masturbates they don’t have to guess what feels right to them. They are the one that is creating the pleasure and they are feeling the pleasure all at the same time. When a person’s lover is trying to please them, they can’t always tell if they are pushing the right buttons or not. When we do it ourselves, we are able to keep hitting that spot until we cum. Over time, our bodies get adjusted to us being able to hit that spot and stay on that spot until we climax. But, when someone else pleases us, if they move off of that spot just a little the build up to the orgasm subsides and the build starts all over again.

When I am eating a woman, I can feel her legs trembling, her clit throbbing and her getting very close to exploding. But if there is a slight change in tongue movement or because of her getting close to cumming she moves her body and gets me out of position she may lose that feeling. Then the build up has to start all the way back over.

Is that a problem? Yes and no. If the person has a determined lover he/she will keep at it. But, what happens is that it extends the time it takes for that person’s lover to make them cum which can be frustrating for both parties. When I experience women like that, I have to make a concerted effort to really try to keep a consistent pace while eating the pussy and try not to move much. Which can wear your tongue and jaw muscles out. But, if you a pro at it, you just keep doing what you do.

Now on the male perspective, too much masturbation has its pluses and minuses. The negative is, that if you masturbate too much and you end up having to perform with a partner. You may not be able to rise to the occasion and perform at your best or be able to perform at all. Point blank your dick is just worn out. The flip side to that equation is very similar to women that masturbate too much, which in this case is actually not a bad thing. The same thing applies for men that when we are pleasing ourselves, we know how to stroke it just right to get us to the point of orgasm. If a woman goes down and she changes her stroke or how she is sucking the dick, the guy could have been real close to cumming, but once there was a change in motion the sensation goes away enough to keep him from cumming and it has to build back up. The same scenario applies to penetration, if the guy is in a rhythm with his penetration and something stops or changes he will have to build back up.

The obvious benefit to that is that a man can typically last longer as a result of masturbation, by simply changing the stroke, stopping or anything along those lines when he is close to cumming. He will lose the sensation and it has to build up again. For me, once I am able to stop that first urge to cum, I am good to go for a good while. The downside is that because you last longer, your lover may think she is not doing a good job pleasing you and think there is an issue with her skills. Sometimes that oh so close feeling can get frustrating. You want to release that orgasm and you are right there at the door, but can’t walk through.

I encourage people to enjoy themselves when it comes to masturbation, however, do it in moderation so it won’t adversely affect your love life. Now for those women out there that don’t mind being exhibitionist, give your boy a shout, I don’t mind being in the audience. In fact, I don’t mind returning the favor or helping you out in any way I can. I like to do what I can to make the world a better place. lmao