Freaky Good Man

The big issue that people have liked to talk about for a number of years has been men on the DL. I even wrote about a friend of mine that I found out was on the DL. One of the things that never gets talked about is women that are on the DL. What do I mean exactly? “Lesbian” women are fucking guys a lot more than really publicly known or talked about. The reason I put quotes around lesbian is that obviously if chics are fucking guys, then she is bi and not lesbian right? Well, that’s the same discussion that happened when DL men were talked about so much. How does it work for women? We all know that men are ostracized by sleeping with men on the DL. There will not be such an outcry from the general public for women on the DL. In the lesbian community it may be an outcry, but the general public I doubt it.

My reason for discussing this is twofold. One, to shed some light on a subject that I haven’t heard anyone talk about. Secondly, there was an article recently by a somewhat famous actress that discussed her lesbian relationship, but says that it was a choice for her and not that she was born a lesbian. This goes against what a lot of people theorize. Even a lot of lesbian and gay activist argue that their being lesbian or gay is not a choice, but that they were born that way.

I have written about Ms Les in my blog many times. She has become a favorite of people that enjoy the blog. Ms Les told me that she could never see herself seriously dating a guy and was fully immersed in the lesbian lifestyle. Our relationship was very discreet which was fine with me, but we had a very intense sexual relationship. Ms Les is considered a femme (for those that are not familiar a femme is a lesbian that identifies as feminine woman, unlike lesbians that are considered studs which identify with more of a masculine role and look), but in addition to Ms Les I have actually had a stud female to give me oral.

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I thought I had posted this on the blog in the past, but I do not see it. TED in my humble opinion is one of the great things about the internet. It shares great ideas, thoughts and theories in a format that challenges you to think of things that may be outside of your normal comfort zone or expertise. It is a free site and is a good place to go to expand your horizons on a lot of different topics. Some of the speakers on TED charge hundreds of dollars to listen to them in person. TED brings you some of the top minds of our time to you on video in the comfort of your own home. A very valuable resource in my opinion. I encourage you to check out the site and to share it with others.

Here is how TED describes itself:

TED is a nonprofit devoted to Ideas Worth Spreading. It started out (in 1984) as a conference bringing together people from three worlds: Technology, Entertainment, Design. Since then its scope has become ever broader. Along with two annual conferences — the TED Conference in Long Beach and Palm Springs each spring, and the TEDGlobal conference in Edinburgh UK each summer — TED includes the award-winning TEDTalks video site, the Open Translation Project and TED Conversations, the inspiring TED Fellows and TEDx programs, and the annual TED Prize.

Our mission: Spreading ideas.

We believe passionately in the power of ideas to change attitudes, lives and ultimately, the world. So we’re building here a clearinghouse that offers free knowledge and inspiration from the world’s most inspired thinkers, and also a community of curious souls to engage with ideas and each other. This site, launched April 2007, is an ever-evolving work in progress, and you’re an important part of it.

Some of the quotes I have enjoyed off of the TED site:

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I can NOT stand this fat, drug addict, liar that uses the radio airways to spew ignorance and hate. He has made millions by twisting the truth to fit his ideology. He is the face of the Republican Party and is a prime example of the type of hate field political stance the entire Republican Party uses to try to win elections.

Why am I even talking about this asshole? If you happened to miss the news, this idiot called a 30 year old Georgetown Law student who was called to testify in front of congress about the national healthcare policy passed by President Obama a slut. The new policy will make her current college health plan pay for her birth control. It will also affect a numerous other health plans under most corporate benefits package.

Fat boy Rush was quoted as saying: “What does it say about the college coed … who goes before a congressional committee and essentially says that she must be paid to have sex? It makes her a slut, right? It makes her a prostitute. She wants to be paid to have sex.” He went on to make a few other out of touch statements. Under pressure from both Republicans and Democrats he finally gave a half hearted apology that included this statement: “For over 20 years, I have illustrated the absurd with absurdity, three hours a day, five days a week,”

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This was a very good documentary that was on PBS about how slavery was extended way past the emancipation proclamation. This is really and truly worth watching. It may make you a little angry of the audacity of some of the people, but that was how fucked up times were back then. It also may anger you to really understand how this “great” country of ours was truly built on the back of slave labor. This is not a clip but the entire documentary. It is a worth while viewing.

“i need a goon..a thug..a gangsta that is caring loving and likes me for me. i like gangstas or thugs or goons.”

I saw the words above on a popular social media site on a 25 year old African American female’s page as I was browsing. I was sadden that a woman wants someone that is all of these negative things that help keep our black communities in a state of disarray and failure. How in the hell can we move forward if we want to promote these type of lifestyles. Ladies we need your help. When I say we, I mean all the Black Men in the United States. We cannot lead our families and community to better days by having this destructive mentality. Ladies you have to understand the power you have to influence black men and their actions. A great deal of a man’s decisions are determined by whether or not women will approve of what he is doing. Just to be clear when I say approve of, if you are willing to date these types of men or willing to be sexually involved with these type of men you are giving them approval to continue to act in this negative manner. If women go around saying they want thugs, gangstas and goons guys are going to try and be those things or at the least try and imitate the characteristics. Guys may come up with the concept of being these negative things, but the reason they tend to permeate in our society is that instead of it being rejected as unacceptable we think its cute, exciting and dangerous.

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Women don’t know what the fuck they want! Yes I said it. Now I know I have mostly women readers to this blog. So, I hope some of you will actually remove yourself from this topic directly and don’t look at this as me talking about you. Try to think about some of your girlfriends, sisters, sorors or whatever female relationships you have and some of the conversations you have had with them about their lives. Women always complain about men don’t know what they want. And I am here to tell you, that is a bunch of bullshit. Men are pretty simple creatures and they typically know what they want. Now I am not crazy, nothing is 100% there are always exceptions to the rule. But, in general terms men are easy in their wants and needs. The problem with men, is they may not know exactly how to go about getting what they want. But, that is completely different from not knowing what they want.

Women you are the complicated one’s in this equation. Depending on where you are in your life and what it is you are accomplishing you really do need to come up with some nuclear physics equation to figure out exactly what it is you want. You guys are attracted to the handsome badboy that turns you on for being on the edge and being just that a badboy. Yet, as soon as you get him you want to change him and make him into somebody that fits into your fairytale mold of what a husband or man “should” be. That is no different than when people bring in a wild animal into captivity and try to tame them. There will be days where that animal will follow your instructions and obey what you say. That animal will fight your authority from time to time and there will always be the occasion where that animal will literally bite you in the ass.

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Ok, this entry has been sitting in my blog drafts for a long time. This is an article I ran across and unfortunately there was no name given for the author. I saw it on a secondary source and the author was not given credit. Whoever she is I think she did a great job of touching on all aspects of approaching and being successful enjoying anal sex. I have written about my enjoyment of anal sex and still feel the orgasms that the women have from anal sex are some of the most intense she can have. From the male’s perspective it feels great as well and has given me some very enjoyable orgasms. I have been asked a lot about how to approach doing anal, so I am posting this guide. Hopefully this will be beneficial to some people.
Anal Sex.

Also known as Sodomy, Greek love, Buggery, Booty sex, Backdoor loving, Dicking the derriere, Banging the bung hole, Reaming the rump, Probing the poop chute, Touring the Hershey highway, Raping the rectum, Packing the fudge, Traveling the old dirt road, Tossing the salad (don’t ask) and plain old Butt fucking.

Why the Fascination with Anal Stimulation?

Why Not?

The many nerve endings in the anus can give intense orgasms to the recipient while the cock provider enjoys a clutching, tightened orifice. The very idea of anal sex is arousing to many, and this form of erotic pleasure is expanding the sexual repertoire of a growing number of lovers. Still considered somewhat socially taboo, it can add excitement, spice, and a feeling of naughty or nasty play.

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Unfortunately I have neglected this poor little section of the blog. But, I am going to see if I can add more to it. I was just asked a question that I had to post here. I hope that it is helpful and makes sense. If anybody has any follow up questions feel free to ask.

I have a quick question on giving oral sex on a man. How do you know if you are doing it correctly? Never had any complaints before but just want to make sure. Thank you.

The sure fire way to know if you are doing it right is if a guy is telling you to hold up he doesn’t want to cum too quick. Say if you are giving oral as foreplay and he is telling you to hold on or stop, you know you are doing your job. If a guy is really trying to have sex with you, he is not trying to come before he is able to get into the pussy. If he is just trying to get a quick nut, that is a totally different story. It is unfortunately that a lot of people have no idea if what they are doing is good or bad. People don’t want to hurt feelings or feel that if they say something they may not get to do it again. Communication is key for great sex. It’s not all about you just being this great lover and knowing how to please your partner in every facet as soon as you meet them.

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Me and my friend Country Girl that I wrote about in the entry “She said she was shocked” had been looking for a female to join us in some adult play time. Country Girl is what I call semi bi lol. She is not really into women but is comfortable with a woman touching her and even doing oral on her. She told me that if I wanted her to she would be willing to go down on a woman, but that’s not really her thing. The reason we were looking for a female to join us was really her idea. As was mentioned in the previous blog about her, we had a little bet going to see if I could make her cum more than 7 times. How did I come up with 7? She had told me 3 was the most she had ever cum during one encounter. So I figured a safe bet would be doubling what she had done before and I added one for good measure. lol For those of you that are new to my blog I am a very competitive person. Usually that works out well for my partners. Although 7 was the bet, my personal goal was to get her to double digit orgasms. Of course I didn’t share that with her. But, part of the bet was that she would try to explore anal fully and she would be my sub. She told me that she has enjoyed ass play but never actually done anal, but because she has enjoyed the ass play (fingering, licking, spanking) she was willing to give it a shot since it would seem that I knew what I was doing if I could make her cum that much. Needless to say she lost the bet. The first time we got together after the bet I had a little silver bullet I was going to use in her ass while I ate her pussy. She panicked and wouldn’t let me get near her ass with more than my finger.

The following few days she text me and said in order for her to do anal she wanted to see me do another female in the ass. She figured if she was able to actually see my dick go into another female’s ass she would have to step up her game. She also thought that when it was her turn for anal that the female could be pleasuring her and helping her relax.

We set out to find a female that would be down with a 3 some and allowing me to do anal on her. After a few females flaked out on us we ended settling a little on this one female that didn’t seem to be up to any BS. It wasn’t that she was unattractive, but she didn’t blow us away either. The thing that was really going for her is that she had a great ass and some serious hips on her. In fact we called her Ms Hips every time we referred to her. She ended up being a really cool chic from the Caribbean with a fun personality.

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Ok, during my hiatus I have been pretty low key and not getting into a whole lot of sex filled mayhem. lol But, at the same time FGM is still alive and well. I am having drinks with this new female I met. We haven’t really gone into any detailed sex talk or discussed any sexual exploits. I am just trying to enjoy getting to know her and not have sex on the brain. Now she is a very attractive woman and does some personal training and even teaches Zumba. So, I am not sure if she was feeling like she is this woman with all this energy and ability to concur the world or what. But, this chic actually challenged me while we are having a nice relaxing drink getting to know each other. When I say challenged, she was like I suck a mean dick and I got some good pussy, can you handle what I got. Now she wasn’t saying this in a condescending way exactly; it was more just showing her confidence. Initially I laughed and then very calmly told her that she had no idea who she was fucking with.

At this point I still didn’t boast but I just assured her she had the right guy. As we continue a general conversation she suggested we take it to the car. This chic really is thinking that she has someone who is going to panic or not step up to the challenge. We get into her car and try to find a secluded spot to park. I was a bit familiar with the area so I we find a nice dark business parking lot and back in. At this point I have been good ole laid back nice guy. As soon as she parks I took control. She was like now what? I told her to get her ass to the back seat and take her pants off. As she eases to the back seat and starts pulling her pants off, I help her take her boots off and she ask me if I was sure. I told her it was no turning back now. I told her she had talked too much shit to back out now.

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Well good ole freaky good man blog, it has been a minute. I haven’t really written much in some time. Two people reached out to me recently and asked when I was going to make this thing into a book. This all started as a hobby and a form of entertainment for me. It has turned into a good outlet for all sorts of thoughts and feelings. This blog has allowed me to develop some lifelong friendships and when I got started on this thing I had no idea it would even be on the radar this long. With that being said, I am going to look a little deeper into what it would take to make what I have written to compile into a publishable format. In the mean time I do have some things to say and I think I am in a good place to get back to sharing some of my opinions and stories again. So for those that are old and new I appreciate you stopping by to check out my life’s journey and to see how things are viewed from my perspective. With that being said I think I need to start with a good life update to catch everybody up on some things.

I think the biggest thing to happen that I have not written about was that your boy turned the big 40 in 2011. I normally try to do something a bit exciting for my b-days and as fate would have it, I was not able to bring in the 40th like I would have hoped. It was not a bad thing really, but life has a way of throwing you curve balls. As I was about to get ready for my bday two things were going on in my life. One I was actually in a committed relationship with a beautiful woman. I also was about to start working on a project that was going to literally take me on a journey across the country. The week before my bday I was training for this new project in the IT field and on my bday which was on a Tuesday or Wednesday I was in California working my ass off. I will write more specifically about this project later as it took me to 15 to 20 states in a little over 7 months. The weekend following my bday I was in San Diego and took a trip up to LA to hang out with one of my boys from college. So kicking it in LA on your bday is not a bad thing, but it was so short notice I did not have time to really plan it out. However, being in a relationship at the time there was no wild sex as I was true to my girl. The highlight of that night was probably having a fabulous steak at the Palm restaurant in downtown LA a couple blocks from the staples center. Did have a ball at Lucky Strike and some other spot right there in that area. Also hit Venice beach the following day and had a blast. So, it was a good time had.

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My new friend who we will name Country Girl had read my blog before we ever did anything intimate. After she read the blog she decided to write about our first experience together. Below is everything in her own words.

Well the night started after a long week of emails text and picts: The plan was to meet up at at resturant call EATS downtown just for a face to face meet…so as I pull up (now I had butterflies in my stomach the whole drive) and get out there is a very nice light skin man standing outside that greeted me and I have to say he was very handsome..we go in sit down to eat had great conversation (he made me laugh alot) after eating we headed over to get drinks before the night ended (or at least i thought was the end of the night) so we both order and we are laughing and talking sitting across from each other holding hands..he then wants me to come sit beside him..so I do and as soon as i sat next to him i felt my body get warm and tingley…we are still talking laughing and in the middle of this he leans over and kisses me damn i could have came right then.(i am not a kisser) my panties were so damn wet at that moment just after the one kiss…so he takes my hand and puts it on his dick…OMG..IT WAS HUGE ..he had sent me picts before and it was pretty and looked real suckable but when i touched it i got scared, real scared I had never felt something like that before…

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There are lots of Kinky people and freaky ass shit for people to get into in the world. Recently a new female friend told me something she was into and I thought it was funny as hell, cool and a bit weird all at the same time. I always love it when my sistas broaden their horizons and get into different things sexually. My new friend, who we will call Country Girl told me that the idea of watching a man fuck a blow up doll really turns her on. She says that she has watched a few porns and I have actually found some for her and sent them to her of guys doing this. But, her goal is to actually see a guy do this in person. Now there are weirder things I have seen out there, but this is a fetish I don’t really get. Now again, I don’t hold it against her at all, I just don’t see the connection with why it would turn her on. At the same time, I don’t know why a guy would get off doing a plastic blow up doll either. To me, good ole masturbation would seem to be a quicker and even more intimate option. Hey, but this is the type of shit that makes the world go round. In fact I remember seeing on the old show real sex that use to come on HBO (that show doesn’t still come on does it?) how there are a few manufactures that are producing more realistic dolls than have been produced in the past.

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Came across a great site to find movies and software and as I was searching I came across a few vids I thought would be helpful and even entertaining to the visitors of the blog. Not sure if I will just add links to this entry or add different entries. We shall see how the response is. There were several good guides on different sexual techniques. The first one I saw had someone who is considered an expert on the subject and she goes over different techniques and ideas, then they have a couple of couples to actually do the sexual activity and then discuss it. So, I think it gives some good ideas from different perspectives if you are looking to improve upon what you are already doing. A lot of these types of vids can be boring, but the ones I have seen so far have not been bad at all. Click on the video link and it will take you to a free download site. Note: I have not taken the time to view all of them, if you like or dislike a particular one please give your feedback.

Update: Apparently the videos were removed from from the site. I have tried to find the exact videos but have not had any luck. I did find some different version of the some of the videos I mentioned in the intro. I am looking to replace them all so please bear with me and check back if all videos are not up. Instead of having to leave the blog I have embedded the videos for you to view right here. You can double click on the video to view them outside of the blog.

Expert Guide To Anal Sex - There is a more detailed article I posted about anal sex that I think really covers all the bases. This video gives some good tips and is not as technical as some vids out there. It starts a little off topic but gets to the point.

Lovers Guide to Sexual Positions

Oral Sex Fellatio Video

102 Sexual Positions - This video is in a foreign language, but as they say a picture is worth a thousand words. You may be able to see something you like to add to your repertoire as they go through a lot of different positions and it is presented a little different than the previous video.

How to Oral sex / Cunnilingus - This is kind of a two part series, I like it because at the end of the second one they give some feedback to each other on different aspects of what they enjoyed and even discuss tongue rings and clit piercings. I also like the discussed a little about massaging the g-spot while doing oral. But, I did not hear them discuss one of my favorites which is fingering the ass while doing it which has worked real well for me when pleasuring my partner.

Part 1

How To Perform Cunnilingus 01 1

Part 2

How To Perform Cunnilingus 01 2

Was at home relaxing watching the game with my laptop next to me. I see a FWB that is a workaholic on yahoo messenger. I hit her up with a simple hello and the next thing you know I am talking shit to her. The first few times we got together we had some great sex, but she is a contract nurse and she is working as much as they will allow her, so we have not been able to hook up like I thought we would ( I will write about our first few encounters another time). So, I am giving her a hard time about us not playing in a minute. I am like when can I get some more of that good loving. She replies I can have it whenever I want. My big mouth is like how about tonight. Now it is about 10:30 PM during the week and I honestly hadn’t planned on going anywhere. She was like, I just moved and my house is a mess maybe we can hook up in a couple of days. Then she remembers that her daughter will be there for a week starting the next day, so she is like if we are going to do it, tonight is the night. Now I am like shit, I can’t back out and say I was just playing. Now don’t get me wrong I been wanting to get my hands back on her for way too long. When we first got together, we made a bet that if I made her have a certain amount of orgasms I could do whatever I wanted to do to her sexually. I blew past her previous record by more than double, so she didn’t even blink when I started throwing sexual ideas at her. Anyway, she was like let me get my house together and you can come on by. I felt guilty at this point and was like look, I have known you long enough I know you just moved, just clear out a spot on the bed or the sofa and we will make it happen.

She was like cool we can do that. I told her I would be at her house around 12ish. I couldn’t get it in gear. I was watching the start of the NBA season when the Heat played Boston and then there was a second game on after it when the Lakers played. Needless to say I didn’t make it to her spot until about 1:00 AM. She told me she had to be up at 5Am to get ready for work. With that in mind we both agreed to a quickie. When I get to her place I knock on the door and don’t get an answer or hear anything, so I texted her to let her know I was at the door. Nothing. I waited a good 5 mins texting and knocking on the door trying not to be loud as hell at that time of the morning. She finally comes to the door, looking like she just woke up (which she did) and hair wrapped in a silk scarf. You know how you ladies do when it’s bed time. lol

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